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CT’s First Lady Apologizes For Remarks In Charlotte

by | Sep 6, 2012 11:58am () Comments | Commenting has expired | Share
Posted to: Election 2012, State Capitol

She wasn’t part of the panel, but that didn’t stop Gov. Dannel P. Malloy’s wife, Cathy, from standing up saying what she really thought about the news media during a panel discussion in Charlotte on Wednesday.

Mrs. Malloy, who headed a rape crisis center for 11 years while her husband was mayor of Stamford and is now executive director of the Greater Hartford Arts Council, told a group gathered for a discussion on women in politics that it’s not easy being in the public spotlight.

But her remarks were so damning that she apologized through her husband’s communications department Thursday morning.

Here’s what happened:

During the question-and-answer portion of an EMILY’s List panel discussion, Mrs. Malloy recounted how earlier this summer she was pulled over for not wearing her seatbelt.

“In April I drove to work and I forgot to put my seat belt on, and I was pulled over by police,“ Hearst newspapers reported. “Of course, they had no idea who I was because I drive this really shitty car, and they didn’t believe that I was the governor’s wife in this shitty car. And I was driving myself, because of course, governor’s wives only get security when we’re with our husbands. We’re pretty second-class without them.”

She went onto say “We choose to be in public life, we choose to run for office so nobody should feel sorry for us, this is what we want to do…. It’s just so bizarre.”

The LA Times reported that the panel’s moderator Joanna Coles, the former editor of Marie Claire magazine, which sponsored the event, tried to interrupt. “You raise a very good point,” she began.

But Malloy continued according to the LA Times.

“Someone was saying earlier you can’t get people to run. And I think the reason people don’t want to run is … they say, ‘Wow, do we really want to subject our children to this, do we really want to subject our wives to this, or our husbands?’ And I’ll tell you it’s a big decision because … the media just won’t let up. Every single thing, you know, what are you doing. I have a son who was in significant trouble and just because …” Malloy said according to the LA Times.

Again the panelists tried to interrupt Malloy, who this time took the cue and sat down while saying “I don’t think she got what I was telling her.”

The published reports prompted Mrs. Malloy to offer an apology Thursday.

“First let me say that I apologize for my remarks,” Malloy said. “I was trying to convey a certain sentiment, and I didn’t do a good job of expressing what I really feel.”

She went onto explain that “Although I don’t always agree with what’s written by members of the media, I do believe that they’ve been fair to my family and me.  I made these comments at a panel hosted by Emily’s List, and I was addressing the question of why more people don’t get into public life, especially women.“

“The point I was trying to make is that for those of us who do get into public service, there are sacrifices we have to make – including some of our privacy.  Sometimes that’s frustrating.  But we believe deeply in public service, and so we make whatever sacrifices we need to make. We don’t expect anyone to feel sorry for us, because we’re honored to be able to serve,” Malloy concluded.

The panel she attended included actress, author and activist Ashley Judd, Sen. Kirsten Gillibrand, former Orlando Police Chief, candidate for Congress Val Demings, and EMILY’s List President Stephanie Schriock.

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posted by: oliviahuxtable | September 6, 2012  12:29pm

So she told the truth. Why is that a problem? Too bad she apologized….no reason to.

posted by: Tessa Marquis | September 6, 2012  8:33pm

Anyone who knows Cathy Malloy for five minutes knows who she is and what to expect. We should all be proud to have an honest, open, real “first lady” who says what she thinks.

I think she is, as my maternal grandomther would say: “A Pip”. My paternal grandmother would have said “Kvatch”.

posted by: Noteworthy | September 7, 2012  5:52am

Cathy Malloy has a lot in common with her husband. She doesn’t listen as she talks over everybody and she feels entitled because she’s the wife of the governor. I guess the cushy job at the arts council isn’t good enough - she should be able to drive in violation of state law and have security to make sure she isn’t whacked. The pitiful me routine is as disgusting as it is disturbing. Malloy says she gives up privacy? It’s paid off handsomely. And by the way, the only aspect of her family that got news coverage that is different from the rest of us is the seatbelt ticket. Her son’s problems would have landed any of our children on the pages of this state’s newspapers in the police blotters. But most of us don’t get all our bills paid by the taxpayers; we don’t live in mansions for free; but most of us do drive “shitty cars” because we can’t afford the sales taxes or the payments because our paychecks have shrunk from higher sales and income taxes. Cathy Malloy needs a reality check.

posted by: Upset.Citizen | September 7, 2012  6:26am


Good to know she thinks of everyone who doesn’t have a security detail and drives themselves around as second class citizens!

What does she define as a shitty car?  I work for a living and my car is going on 13 years old… I’m willing to bet her’s is newer! 

Oh my, what must she really think of all us second class little people?!?!?!?

posted by: MGKW | September 7, 2012  12:45pm

Tempest in a teapot…can you guys cover real news for a change?!?!?!?!

posted by: Christine Stuart | September 7, 2012  6:20pm

Christine Stuart

This is news whether you like it or not.

posted by: Upset.Citizen | September 7, 2012  7:18pm


@MGKW This is real news!  If it had been a republican I’m sure you’d agree! 

Seriously, why isn’t everyone outraged!  If she has such a disconnected elitist attitude what makes you all think Dano is any different?

What has this country come to?  I was at the store today and the woman who rang my (Made in the USA) stuff up told me she was lucky to just have a job… She also told me she has a masters degree!  Yet the snooty Mrs. Malloy gets everything handed too her and her husband off the public dime and she looks down on us little people!  We should all be outraged!


posted by: Gramps | September 8, 2012  8:56am

This may be “news” by today’s standard, but I remember a time with this type of remark would not see the light of day. We used to focus more on policy and not the personal.

posted by: Beth | September 8, 2012  8:18pm

She did not make her point very well: The full quote was published elsewhere (not here) and it seems she was telling the “shitty car” story to note that story made the news but not the award she won for helping rape victims for over a decade. And I understand that frustration—you work your guts out for a good cause and dumb error gets the ink? Talk about shitty. I think on balance the media has been fair to them.

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